Written by: Guest | Best Company Editorial Team
Last Updated: February 24th, 2020
Guest Post by Tracee Gluhaich
Henry Ford once said, 'Whether you think you can or think you cant, you are right.'
So many people are looking for lifestyle changes. Maybe they want to lose weight, get out of debt, change careers, or find their soulmate.
They want to have a quick fix for problems that they’ve struggled with for decades. They often look for the next big thing to fix them. When it doesn’t work out within a few days, they give up and go back to their comfy spot on the couch. At the first sign of failure, they give up on their hopes and dreams and settle for the status quo.
Why does this happen over and over? Why do people so frequently give up on themselves?
I believe it’s because they haven’t worked on their mindset. They must change their thoughts in order to create success in anything.
Since I am in the wellness industry, let’s use a weight loss goal as an example.
Julie starts a new diet, a 3-week program hoping to shed 10 lbs. She gets started on Monday and feels pretty good. She prepped her meals and has planned her workouts for the week and feels strong.
All her friends at work are going to happy hour and are begging her to come. Since Julie is on a “diet” she tells them she can’t, because she needs to stick to her program. Well, you know how convincing women can be, and Julie’s friends twist her arm and make her go. She silently vows to sit at happy hour and drink club soda and lime.
That worked just fine until her friend bought her a margarita and the nachos come out to the table. This is NOT part of Julie’s diet program, but it looked so fun, so she thought, “Heck, I will just start again tomorrow. How often do I get a chance to have fun with my friends?”
The next morning, Julie feels depressed and mentally defeated. She fell off the proverbial wagon and decided to take the rest of the weekend off, starting the diet again on Monday.
Guess what Julie? There was no wagon. Your mind made it up.
Conversely, Julie’s friend, Susan decides she wants to lose 10 lbs and starts a program that begins with strengthening her mindset. Susan writes down all the reasons she has not been able to permanently lose the weight in the past. Next, she burns that list. The past does not equal the future. It’s all about what you do now.
Susan creates her vision statement in juicy detail, in the present tense, six months from now, as if she is already living it. She reads this vision morning and night, implanting this new reality into her subconscious mind. Susan feels super excited after empowering her mind with this new vision.
She starts her lifestyle change on Monday, like Julie. After prepping her meals and planning her workouts, Susan is feeling strong and excited about her commitment and is confident in this new direction.
On Thursday, Susan’s friends invite her to happy hour. She goes, without batting an eye. She has committed to a new lifestyle, not just a 3-week diet. Susan orders a glass of chardonnay and a large club soda with lime. She sips the wine slowly and enjoys the crazy conversations. When the nachos arrive at the table, she is not even tempted.
You see, Susan started with her mindset. She empowered herself and committed to a lifestyle change.
Julie started with a diet and was focused on being compliant with the rules of the program.
Mindset work keeps you moving forward with the intended goal in mind. Our conscious mind is discerning and knows the difference between imagination and reality. But our subconscious mind believes everything you feed it. This is why reading your vision daily is helpful. By implanting this vision into your subconscious mind, your brain will figure out how to make it a reality.
This is why athletes visualize jumping the hurdle, breaking the board, and hitting the ball. You want to feed your mind these powerful images so it will manifest into reality.
You can also add in practices such as morning affirmations: I am strong, I love to eat healthy foods, I am powerful in the gym, I am beautiful, I will achieve my goals.
And finish your day with gratitude. Notice what was awesome about each day. Maybe it was an amazing date with your spouse or the beautiful hills on your walk. Maybe it was the perfect cup of coffee or the funny video that you are still laughing at. Or maybe it was that you are one step closer to where you want to be. Focusing on the good in our lives creates a joyful mindset.
Just remember, your body can do it, it’s your mind you have to convince.
Tracee is an Integrative Health Coach and Personal Trainer. She helps women over 40 age stronger and become high energy, fat burning phenoms without going hungry or spending hours in the gym.